- Ramses and Marissa have been one of many engaged {couples} featured on “Love Is Blind” season seven.
- That they had tough conversations about their intercourse life and views on the army.
- Nevertheless, they did not make it to the altar after Ramses known as off their relationship.
Warning: Main spoilers via the “Love Is Blind” season seven finale forward.
“Love Is Blind” season seven’s most candid on-screen couple nearly made it to the altar — however finally, their relationship ended earlier than they have been married.
Ramses, a 35-year-old program affiliate at a justice reform nonprofit, and Marissa, a 32-year-old lawyer, hit it off within the pods and finally obtained engaged.
After they returned from a post-engagement journey to Mexico, they’d some frank discussions whereas dwelling collectively. Ramses had robust, anti-imperialist, and important views of america army. And whereas Marissa shared a few of them, as a former service member, she empathized with these serving as we speak.
It was a outstanding dialog for “Love Is Blind,” which as Vulture’s Kathryn VanArendonk wrote, “has by no means swerved towards something as instantly political as ‘what position ought to America play on the worldwide stage.'”
Ramses and Marissa’s dialogue additionally has important attain: Seasons of “Love Is Blind” are seen by tens of millions of individuals, per Netflix’s personal engagement numbers. That additionally implies that tens of millions will possible view their heartbreaking cut up within the season finale, which aired Wednesday.
Here is what we find out about what occurred to Ramses and Marissa after filming and the place they stand as we speak, together with what Marissa revealed concerning the breakup in a brand new interview with Glamour.
Marissa and Ramses begin off robust within the pods and in Mexico
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Marissa has connections with each Ramses and one other contestant, Bohdan, within the pods. However finally, she cuts off her relationship with Bohdan in favor of pursuing the one she has with Ramses.
In episode 5, Ramses proposes to her. After assembly in particular person later that episode, producers choose the couple as one of many six pairs they’re going to proceed following on a post-engagement journey to Mexico.
General, that journey goes easily for them. However by episode seven, Ramses and Marissa are again in the actual world and variations come up.
The 2 transfer in collectively and start to debate their upcoming marriage ceremony. In addition they talk about their opposing views on america army: Whereas each share an anti-imperialist critique of the establishment, Marissa grew up within the army, served for eight years after faculty, and says that she helps those that at the moment serve. She says that she would not need Ramses to really feel “ashamed” of her service. He confirms that he possible would not wish to be along with her if she was a reservist.
“I would not, like, need anybody to really feel disgrace about their previous,” he says. “So long as it is in your previous.”
The subject comes up once more in episode eight, throughout a dialog with Marissa’s pals, and the couple says that they have been in a position to speak via their variations.
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In episode 9, Ramses and Marissa meet with Marissa’s household. Whereas her siblings approve of the couple, Marissa’s mother is skeptical and strongly urges the couple to get a prenuptial settlement out of concern for Marissa’s future belongings. Nonetheless, Marissa tells Ramses later that her mother hasn’t dissuaded her from marrying him.
Later in that episode, nonetheless, the 2 hit one other, totally different roadblock: They’ve totally different timelines for youngsters. Whereas Ramses prefers to attend 4 years, Marissa desires to have their first youngster sooner.
After they start to debate contraceptive choices, they discover they’re at one other deadlock. Marissa would not wish to go on contraception, however Ramses says that having intercourse with a condom is not as pleasurable.
“Intercourse is meant to be, like, mutually gratifying. That is not one thing that guys ever have the strain of getting to consider,” he says.
“Yeah, effectively, here is the strain. I am not going to go on contraception,” Marissa replied.
“Sounds good, child. We have to do what we have to do, however I would like the intercourse to be gratifying,” he says.
In episodes 10 and 11, Ramses and Marissa work via some doubts about their marriage, with Ramses telling Marissa he desires a sure degree of bodily intimacy. After a scorching tub boat date, they each really feel assured.
Nevertheless, within the season finale, Ramses tells Marissa that he was anxious his emotions have been main him to an incorrect choice. Finally, he says that he is anxious about their energies “coexisting in the identical area,” and that he would not really feel assured about getting married.
“I feel you make a mistake. I feel this can be a huge mistake,” Marissa tells him. “I imagine that wholeheartedly. And I — I can not persuade you in any other case. Like, I do not know, however I simply know this isn’t proper. Like, this isn’t proper. That is just like the worst heartbreak I’ve ever skilled. It hurts so unhealthy.”
In a confessional, Marissa expresses confusion that Ramses had been excited for his or her marriage ceremony solely days earlier than he determined to name it off.
Ramses and Marissa did not get again collectively after filming
Marissa and Ramses posted fondly about their time on “Love Is Blind” on social media main as much as the finale. In addition they nonetheless observe one another on Instagram.
Marissa has additionally posted about her and Ramses’ dialogue about her army service on social media, sharing articles and different social media posts on her Instagram story. In a single TikTok video, she joked that her service was singing the music “I will Make a Man Out of You” from the Disney film “Mulan.”
“Navigating totally different views along with your associate will be difficult, however I am pleased with how a lot I’ve grown in my beliefs. I am additionally grateful that Ramses and I have been in a position to create area for one another to specific ourselves overtly,” she wrote within the caption.
She additionally shared photographs from the Mexico journey on Instagram, reminiscing about her time with Ramses there — even a date the place she obtained seasick.
“We needed to finish the date early, and I felt terrible figuring out how a lot he’d been wanting ahead to it,” she continued. “However as an alternative of being upset, he was past caring, ensuring I used to be okay each step of the best way. His love and help in that second meant the world to me.”
In an interview printed Wednesday, Marissa instructed Glamour that she sensed that her relationship with Ramses was coming to an finish after a dialog he had with a buddy two days earlier than their breakup. Through the dialog, Ramses mentioned he realized how a lot he had damage his ex-wife, and within the days following, she mentioned that he was “in a special temper.”
Marissa mentioned that she instructed Ramses that she was comfy pushing the marriage to pursue a relationship, transferring again to their separate residences and simply relationship. She mentioned, nonetheless, that he wasn’t amenable to that. It took her six months, she mentioned, to get well from the breakup, and he or she noticed Ramses a number of occasions.
She requested him in February or March if he was fascinated about getting again collectively, and he instructed her no.
Ramses didn’t instantly reply to a request for remark.
After that time, they stopped speaking, and on the time of the interview, Marissa mentioned she was apprehensive about seeing him on the reunion.
“I feel it will be very tough to see him, however I feel I will make it via,” she instructed Glamour. “I feel it will likely be emotional as a result of I nonetheless have quite a lot of love for him. I do not suppose he has quite a lot of maliciousness in him.”
Marissa additionally spoke concerning the season seven finale in a video uploaded to TikTok. In it, she defended the best way that she approached the breakup dialog with Ramses, saying that asking somebody in the event that they’re sure of their intentions is not “begging.”
On the day the finale premiered, Marissa was set to host a Q&A with Bohdan, her fellow season seven forged mate with whom she fashioned a connection within the pods, at Metrobar in Washington, DC.
The “Love Is Blind” season seven reunion airs on Wednesday, October 30 at 9 p.m. ET on Netflix.
