John Mayer is opening up!
On Tuesday, the singer sat down with Alex Cooper on the Name Her Daddy podcast to get candid about his stacked courting historical past, the inspiration behind one in every of his hottest songs, and what his intercourse life is like lately.
After incomes himself the repute of a playboy for his previous flings with stars like Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Aniston, Katy Perry, and Taylor Swift, the musician curiously insists that every one he’s ever wished was a “deep, significant, and safe” relationship — and sure, marriage is the endgame! He’s so critical about settling down someday that he “can’t wait” to battle about dry-cleaning together with his future spouse, he defined:
“Nothing’s hotter to me than battle decision. I’m attractive for battle decision.”
John Mayer dreaming of home life?! Who would have thunk it?
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Whereas this can be his purpose, the 45-year-old isn’t doing something to achieve it currently. Regardless of being most just lately linked to a lot youthful Chilling Adventures of Sabrina star Kiernan Shipka, 23, he insisted he’s “at present single” and never actively seeking to mingle. That’s to not say he isn’t seeing different folks — he simply doesn’t assume he has to do a lot to draw the women:
“Courting is now not a codified exercise for me. I don’t actually date. I don’t assume that I’ve to, to be fairly sincere. I stop ingesting like six years in the past, so I don’t have the liquid braveness. I simply have dry braveness.”
LOLz! He’s certain assured (or cocky…)!
Apparently, John’s determination to go sober has truly impacted his courting life quite a bit! Not solely does it make asking a lady out tougher, however the relationship tends to be deeper, he shared:
“You must be sincere. You must specific your self. You must be actually obviously sincere.”
The songwriter continued:
“You must specific your anxieties. You’ll be able to’t simply stroll over them by ingesting. You must be like, ‘That is what I’m anxious about.’ And when somebody in life accommodates your anxiousness, that’s bonding. I don’t assume I’m really linked with somebody till I freak out slightly bit and so they go, ‘It’s OK.’”
Aw! Candy! Attending to this place of honesty in relationships has additionally solidified what he’s searching for in a romance. Proving he needs to stroll down the aisle someday, he expressed:
“Each relationship I’ve ever been in was dedicated to the concept that this might go the space. My whole life, immediately included, if you happen to advised me that I may have an amazing two months with somebody however it could finish on the primary day of the third month, I’d not have an interest. I’ve all the time sought potential for a long-term relationship.”
It is a huge change from his youthful self — who grabbed onto each little bit of romance he obtained since he grew up feeling like he didn’t deserve it and was, due to this fact, always searching for “approval.” He dished:
“I used to be made to imagine, rising up, that if any person favored me, it was just about an accident and ought to be capitalized on. So, I felt very deeply when any person favored me.”
Regardless of having “a few nameplates on [him], like ‘Lothario,’” AKA a person who behaves irresponsibly or selfishly in a sexual relationship, Mayer mentioned he “did make investments” himself into a number of of his relationships. All that mentioned, although, he hasn’t had the sort of love story he hopes to someday. Whereas he’s been in love earlier than, John by no means had a “easy crusing” romance, he famous:
“I haven’t actually obtained to the a part of relationship that was the ‘easy crusing’ half. I’ve a sense after I do, I’m gonna have quite a bit to work on — however I’ll be excited to work on it.”
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As for the star’s 2001 smash hit Your Physique Is A Wonderland, the Grammy winner insisted the tune was primarily based on this “one and solely highschool girlfriend,” and never one in every of his former celeb girlfriends as rumors have speculated. He revealed:
“That was about my first girlfriend. I used to be 21 after I wrote that tune and I used to be nostalgic for being 16.”
Should you didn’t know, most followers have speculated the tune was written about Jennifer Love Hewitt, although they had been publicly confirmed to be courting a yr after the tune got here out and he or she has denied she was the inspiration. Shutting down rumors for good (with out naming names), John advised listeners:
“It’s a type of issues the place folks simply type that concept [and] it will get bolstered over time. No, no, no, I’ve by no means met a celeb after I wrote that tune.”
After performing two of his songs, Dancing in a Burning Room and Why Georgia, on the podcast, the host questioned if he ever performs the guitar for his lovers earlier than intercourse — and the reply may shock you! John revealed:
“No, I do it after generally. No, you must by no means play guitar to have intercourse with somebody, however slightly bare guitar taking part in after may be very memorable.”
LMAO! Not solely does he assume pulling out the guitar helps him with the women, however he appears to benefit from the awkwardness of the second post-sex, too! He defined:
“With slightly intestine hanging over, sitting Indian-style on the sting of the mattress. It’s good! I like seeing the best way folks fold up all bizarre after they sit up. Regardless of who you might be, you look bizarre once you sit up. And it’s cute.”
Hah! Whereas there ya have it! He didn’t spill an excessive amount of about his precise romances (sigh), however not less than we all know how he likes to attraction his dates within the bed room. LOLz! Reactions, Perezcious readers? Something shock you? Sound OFF (under)!
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