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Tom Sandoval opened up about his present relationship with Raquel Leviss on Howie Mandel‘s podcast on Tuesday.
After accusing Ariana Madix of threatening and punching him after secretly dumping her on Valentine’s Day, the Vanderpump Guidelines star addressed his live-in dynamic with ex-girlfriend Ariana whereas additionally chatting about Raquel’s kiss with Tom Schwartz, trying again on his sexless relationship with Ariana, and extra.
“This previous yr or so, we’ve each been coping with lots of anxiousness and despair, and we deal with it very in another way. We’re very completely different individuals,” Sandoval stated of himself and Ariana on the April 11 episode of Howie Mandel Does Stuff. “I don’t know find out how to clarify it however we simply form of saved rising aside.”
After turning 40, Sandoval began to have a look at his life, which he felt he “accepted.”
“I accepted it. Like okay, [Ken Todd] and [Lisa Vanderpump], they in all probability don’t have intercourse on a regular basis,” he reasoned. “You get in a relationship for a very long time, you simply cease having intercourse… So I accepted it. I bought porn. I can simply go crack one up within the rest room.”
Serving to Sandoval “settle for” his relationship with Ariana was the truth that “there have been so many different perks.”
“The constructing of the model, the every thing, the picture of all of it. We did have one another’s backs for positive and that was good,” he admitted. “There was a big-time security to it and stability… however as I turned 40, I began to have a look at my life and it appeared very bleak… I began to lose my optimism in life, my drive… I began to really feel trapped.”
Whereas Sandoval had causes to separate from Ariana, he selected to stay in a relationship along with her — whereas additionally embarking on a months-long affair with Raquel that was in the end uncovered in early March.
“I believe it was simply actually surprising,” Sandoval stated of the affair information blowing up within the press. “There’s lots of sh-tty issues that occur within the information on a regular basis. This occurred on a time the place there simply wasn’t loads happening. I imply, hell, CNN’s overlaying this? CNN? I watch CNN? I don’t wanna watch this sh-t on f-cking CNN! You assume I wanna hear about that? No.”
Amid the backlash, Sandoval stated he was snubbed by numerous his shut pals.
“What hurts is that individuals I’ve recognized for thus lengthy have taken this chance to carry skeletons out of the closet from like seven, eight years in the past and I’m identical to, ‘Dude, why would you try this? Why would you attempt to kick me whereas I’m down?’” he questioned. “[They’re] additionally utilizing this to make it seem to be every thing I’ve finished for them, all of the favors, all of the occasions I’ve caught by them when no one else would, to make that out to be that I’m a narcissist and that was all simply so I may look good … It actually f-cking kills [me].”
“I’ve pals that I’m higher pals with than Ariana … they like, don’t even hit me as much as attempt to perceive,” he continued. “Nothing is excusable. I dealt with sh-t unsuitable. I f-cked up and I positively deserve the hate however for these shut pals to not even shoot me a textual content and simply go to social media and begin posting issues like, ‘Was I a pawn on this sport?’ It’s simply, so disappointing and unhappy.”
In response to Sandoval, he’s been “so down” in current weeks and has struggled with “some actually darkish ideas.”
He’s additionally stop consuming.
“I’m doing higher now. I’ve gone like 4 days with out consuming now, which I don’t know the final time I’ve finished that. It’s in all probability been years. I’m making an attempt to deal with this in a wholesome manner cuz I used to be consuming to deal with it and it’s not good. It’s a darkish street,” he admitted.
Though Sandoval’s romantic relationship with Ariana is over, the previous couple remains to be dwelling collectively of their $2 million house in Los Angeles, which Sandoval confirmed has not but been listed on the market.
“It’s really been actually, fairly calm these days,” Sandoval stated of their dynamic, continuing to trace that he can’t afford to remain within the house by himself.
“To be completely trustworthy, like, I can’t afford to… [And] I don’t have lots of pals I can stick with proper now, a, and b, like… I additionally, with the home and stuff, I kinda run the home. I deal with the gardening, the housekeeping, my assistant comes and cleans, shares every thing,” he defined.
To make sure that they don’t have any awkward run-ins, or not less than minimize down on them, Sandoval and Ariana have enlisted a “go-between,” who they textual content after they plan to maneuver about in the home.
“[We] textual content after we’re coming and going … Typically I keep away however I at all times allow them to know,” Sandoval defined. “I’ve gone out of city a few occasions. It’s been okay. [But] initially, it wasn’t nice and I needed to keep away.”
Persevering with on to Schwartz and Raquel’s kiss in Mexico, Sandoval stated Schwartz didn’t know that he and Raquel had already shared a kiss and famous that they solely did so as a result of they’d already confronted a lot backlash from their castmates.
“Schwartz and Raquel had not finished something however had been crucified and bullied… after which they’re sitting there at Scheana’s wedding ceremony… they usually’re identical to, ‘F-ck this.’ It was extra like a rebellious factor,” he defined.
However that doesn’t imply Sandoval wasn’t jealous.
“Effectively Schwartz kissed her … I used to be a bit jealous… however I used to be not questioning our connection. I used to be extra happy with them for kinda saying ‘f-ck you,’” he defined.
Then, after they bought again from Mexico and Schwartz assured him he had no emotions for Raquel, Sandoval informed him about their kiss.
As for the place he stands with Raquel right now, Sandoval stated, “We’re actually good pals. We’re not placing any label on it. We’re additionally simply kinda taking, like, a break.”
He additionally stated that they’re not pals of advantages “proper now.”
Vanderpump Guidelines season 10 airs Wednesdays at 9/8c on Bravo.
